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ENERGY VAMPIRES
by Judith Orloff, MD
Some people bring unexpected lightness and comfort to your life. They crackle with energy, practically electrify you with their presence. And then there are those who leave you feeling stressed out. Or guilty. Or exhausted down to your very last molecule. I call them energy vampires, and obnoxious or meek, they come in all forms. The sob sister, for one, always considers herself the victim. The world is always against her, and she'll recount every horrible thing that has happened to her, wallowing in every perceived slight. The charmer is a constant talker or joke-teller who has to be the center of attention. The blamer, on the other hand, doles out endless servings of guilt. And then there's the drama queen, the co-worker who claims she almost died from a high fever or the neighbor who lives in extremes of emotion—life is unbelievably good or horrifically bad.
No matter which type of energy vampire you're dealing with, you're allowed to walk away. Many of us find this really hard to do. We're afraid of being thought of as impolite; we don't want to offend people. But there are plenty of ways to remove yourself from a killing conversation. When leaving isn't an option, you can still maintain your energy level by making a few minor adjustments.
Recognize the Signs
One of the first things to do is to recognize when you're being drained, and that begins with tuning in to your physical reactions. Is there a tightening in your chest when a certain person enters the conversation? Do you feel tired when you hang up the phone after speaking with someone? Does your head ache, or do you feel what I call "slimed" when another guest at a cocktail party starts talking to you?
Take a Deep Breath
The moment you feel zapped—or hemmed in, or stressed out—I recommend taking a breath. Breathing is a wonderful way to center yourself. Just follow the breath and tell yourself that you know what's happening and you can deal with it. It's important to remember our individual power. I know from working with patients that we can lose it easily. The minute somebody comes in who's bossy or blaming, we feel diminished and tense up. If we can focus on the breath, or on an image of a striking sunset or a view from a mountaintop, the tension will drift away.
Use Your Energy
You can also use some of your own subtle energy to counter the effects of an energy vampire. Visualize a protective white light around you: an energy shield. You can still hear the person who's yelling at you or blaming you or pushing herself into your sphere, but she won't cut into you so viscerally anymore. You've created a buffer zone, where her negative influences can dissipate.
Set Boundaries
Setting boundaries is another way of protecting yourself; you draw a line saying, for instance, "This is what I can do for you, and this is what I can't." You don't have to convince the vampire of the rightness of your stance. Getting defensive simply adds to the negative charge of the encounter. You want to remain neutral. When someone starts pushing your buttons, and you start sizzling inside, you've got to make the decision not to react.
Step Back
I also suggest you step back and think about what type of people aggravate you, because I believe that one law of energy is that we attract what we haven't yet worked out in ourselves. If I'm a very angry person, I'll find myself surrounded by angry people. By paying attention to the people who seem so draining, you might discover something you need to address. It has been my experience that once you've worked through a particular issue, you're no longer worn out by that kind of energy vampire. And the vampires, robbed of a source, move on to more easily drainable audiences.
Read more in the April 2002 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine. Subscribe now!
" I came across this doing research and was suprised that Oprah had this in her magazine "...corpus
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by Sybilla on Dec 06, 2005 - 09:52 PM
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Well, as soon as I get myself out of the straight jacket I had to place myself in to keep from bashing in my computer screen, I'll be able to type this better. This is a perfect example of the uninformed, limited, non-researching, unaware person's view of a vampyre. I understand this is just an article you posted, corpus, and not your personal view. I'm not saying there aren't self-centered energy 'leeches' out there, but it's going to take a long time to get away from the negativity put out about vampyres with articles like this. I mean I constantly come across a couple posts a week (or more) bringing up negative issues of vampyrism. It's years of brainwashing in my opinion. My view is that vampyres are beautiful, spiritual creatures, with a smattering of leeches in the mix. Until we begin to see ourselves in a positive, beautiful, spiritual light, how will anyone else be able to? It's discouraging. Not all of us suck the world dry. I have my doubts that the ones who do, are even true vampyres. One can take energy without 'needing' it. All humans take energy, but are all vampyric? Not in my opinion. I'm not ranting at you, corpus, just the negative views on vampyres.
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by ransim on Dec 07, 2005 - 07:07 AM
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I agree with Sybilla, this is just another of and incorrect view on what a psychic vampire actually is.
Honestly IMO, people like those that are described in the article are not vampires at all. A vampire as I describe it, is someone who shows a genuine need for energy, most people who act like victims, or drama queens, don't actually need energy, they take it because they're greedy and can. Whether they realize it or not, most of the time they do.
Even a psi who doesn't know what they are generally doesn't actively go out of their way to get energy, you may just feel a little drained around the person, but they aren't going to necessarily be the stereotypical drama queen or victim.
And most of these types of people you can shut them out just as easily by not feeding into their need for negative or compassionate attention/energy.
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